limp wrists

so my re-entry into the match world was continued tonight with another date. before even meeting up, the date is wrought with confusion. when he calls me, he proposes going to a "bland" place for drinks. in fact, he uses this word twice to describe our upcoming date location, to which i respond, "boy, you're really selling me on it." he laughs but offers no explanation for the bland comment. and i plan to corner him on this...

so we meet up at his "bland" bar choice, which is actually not bland at all. in fact, it's a bit london-ish, with all the dark lighting and fancy decor. conversation starts pretty easily, and the drinks are good. but there is something wrong with this picture. what is it? can't quite place it... oh yes, why are his hands doing that? he points and gestulates when talking with, well, kinda limp wrists. he's not completely effeminate, but maybe a little. the conversation is nonetheless entertaining. good sense of humour and pretty intelligent. he's a former (and i stress the word former) 7th day adventist, so we have some funny conversations about religious fundamentalism. strangely his parents have converted to jews for jesus...how exactly does one make that jump? he keeps calling me the whore of babylon all night - don't worry, it's funny. anyway, the evening is enjoyable and he picks up the tab. i try to avert my eyes when walking out and noticing the limp wrists again.

so is this a red flag, or does he have a bone problem that causes weak wrists? i don't know, and i'm too tired to contemplate it any more tonight. limp wrists is busy until next week, so keep your eyes open for an update. let's hope it's not another email rejection - i'm supposed to be giving those, not receiving!

oh, and the "bland" comment...apparently he thought i was some corporate professional type person, and he thought that i would prefer a personality-less place a bit more on the upscale version. funny...me the corporate professional type...